Changed Blog Name

I am now totally fed up of the NA and AA people. They are just sick and selfish. They only want to help themselves, but just don't want to help the suffering addicts. I did not get any feedback on what title I should choose for my book, and so I called it 12 Steps in a Day: The Lost Path. I had helped over 200 addicts and alcoholics with the 4th and 5th steps, and had been able to make the inventory into a simple psychoanalysis to help addicts understand their problems and themselves. This I found helped them to easily stay sober. The 12 Step program, I realized, was originally nothing but psychoanalysis. So this analysis is what I have explained in my book. I'm sure it'll help all addicts and alcoholics.
But out here in India the only place addicts are sent for recovery is to NA and AA. So I wrote the book in the hope that the members there would use my book to help the suffering addicts and alcoholics, and explained the psychoanalysis as the 12 Steps in my book. I had wanted to expose NA and AA totally in my book, for even then I hated AA & NA. But my addict friends here in India convinced my to refrain from doing that.
I will be writing another book soon, totally exposing NA and NA. But writing a book takes a long time, and it is tedious work, which I have been procrastinating. Also at present I want the scientific community and the psychologists to accept the therapy. For once they accept it and start using it in their practice, others will know about its effectiveness. So I'm busy writing papers for psychology workshops and conferences. I presented a paper on it at a workshop at IIT Delhi, which was quite well accepted. A Professor there, asked me to submit a paper for an International Conference on Positive Psychology at Amity University, and I will be presenting it there in August. So I guess my book exposing AA will have to wait till then.
In the meanwhile, I've decided to start this blog to expose the 12 Step programs. I hope this blog helps the suffering people who want to stop drinking and using drugs, and saves then from being duped by the recruiters of the 12 Step programs. And I wish you all the best.

Forgive And Forget

This word 'forgive,' and 'forgiveness,' has been confused and misused by too many people. The spiritual people often use this word, without knowing or properly explaining its true meaning. And so most of us today cannot understand what forgiving or forgiveness is. The simple dictionary definition of 'forgive' is to 'give up resentment,' or 'cease to feel resentment against (an offender): Pardon' Since this is such a frequently used word, I thought people should know what they are talking about. Our happiness totally depends on giving up anger and resentments--on forgiving. And the whole purpose of writing my book was to explain to everyone the simple inventory analysis, which is probably the best way (or therapy) in the world for overcoming anger and resentments.

To forgive means not to hold anger and resentments towards others, or accepting others without wanting to hit back. It is generally understood as pardoning others. But only the Law (judge) and God have the power to forgive people. So even Jesus Christ had asked God to forgive those who had crucified him, "Forgive them for they know not what they are doing." And he could say that because he had accepted them without holding any grudges toward them; he was not angry with them. When we humans try to forgive others, we find it very difficult to forget, which is the same as not forgiving.

It is usually the words and concepts we use, which themselves become obstacles in achieving our goal. This is particularly true in the case of 'forgiving,' which a person finds very difficult to do without forgetting. So I believe that we counselors owe it to our clients, and to the people, about being specific and clear about what we mean by 'forgiving.' So when we ask them to forgive someone, we should tell them that we mean 'giving up his resentment toward that person,' or 'accepting that person without holding any grudge, or feeling of hitting back, towards him.' Then our client would know what exactly he needs to do. And do whatever he can to avoid his anger and resentment. Of course if you really want to help him, help him with the therapy given in my book '12 Steps in a Day: The Lost path' or give him a copy of it.